I'm still in the beginning stages of my wedding--and by beginning, I mean we haven't even set a date. I'm very close, however, and a couple things are starting to come together.
Already, millions of opinions and ideas are being thrown at me in every direction possible--and none of them are my own. Opinions on the church, the venue, the colors, the food, the engagement party, the wedding registry and the honeymoon are just a select few of the ways that other people try to (lovingly) get involved. Sometimes, all I want to hear is "that's a good idea"--not from my mouth, but from theirs, after I state what it is that I, the bride, think.
I know what I want. After all, I'm a chick, aren't I? I've known what I've wanted as far as my wedding is concerned since I was probably old enough to understand what it meant. I am no bridezilla, so I am always willing to tweak what I want in order for it to fit into the category of "what I can do." But, I'd like the tweaking to come from me, from my mind, from my ideas. Am I being rational, or am I a wedding brat?
While other people's ideas are always welcomed, strong opinions are not. My fiance and I are going to be contributing financially and therefore I feel that I should be listened to. I feel that once I put down an idea or opinion from someone else, I shouldn't have to continue putting it down for the next five minutes straight. I feel that once something is said on my end, there should be an automatic "concrete" feeling--once I say no, people should leave it at "no." I don't want to offend anyone by not taking their ideas, but with all due respect, it's my wedding. People offering opinions have either already been able to use their own ideas at their own wedding, or they will one day in the future.
I am a big girl. I know what I can and can't afford. I know what I want and what I can do. I have the ability to plan an inexpensive and beautiful wedding. Please let me. I am open to all ideas, but isn't this the one time in my entire life where it's my turn to make the decisions?
So, what's the consensus...Am I a Wedding Brat?
You are not and never have been a brat for as long as I have known you. However, your thoughtful consideration for other's feelings is why you feel you may come off as a brat.
ReplyDeleteYou are right, this is YOUR wedding and you should have it the way you want it because you're only going to do this once. To avoid any discomfort I would address the issue right way before any deposit has been made on your venue, church, dress, etc. Once you have assertively stated your wish, don't look back. Don't leave room for other's comments, it will be counter-productive. The planning is long but before you know it, you will wonder where the time has gone? When you tell your loved ones how you feel, they will understand and cater to your needs. Best of luck with the rest! But remember...this is going to be a blast!
So what if you're a brat? This is yours and Mr. Navy's. Be a demand for what you want and if people are bent over it...then they're bent. Their taking your turning down an idea as a way to be rejected has nothing to do with you. In the end, megs...it's you who and Mr. Man who will accountable for your day.
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